Thicker Skin, Better Rules – Growing Out Of Being A Try Hard

I don’t know if it’s society, an age thing or me but I feel like something’s changing. I feel more comfortable in my skin now, then I think I ever have before. Gone are the days of two hours of make up and hair before being able to walk the two minutes it takes to get to the local shop. Nowadays you’ll be lucky to even see me in clothes. I don’t mean naked – I mean I have walked down in Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle pyjama bottoms and a long coat before. I feel like I am quite possibly the living, breathing Bridget Jones.

Except, I’m in a long-term relationship. Maybe I feel like because of this I have no one I need to impress. But that’s a terrible way of thinking. Whether you’re with someone or not, any possible suitor should accept you whether you want to make a massive effort one day, or slob around the next.

This post idea came to me from a number of things. One being the other day, someone asked me what I thought the current thing to do with hair was. This put me on the spot. As a former poker-straight-hair-daily disciple, I now do absolutely nothing with it. Unless I have somewhere to be in an evening, then I might consider putting in some effort.



This, along with the fact I have been binge-watching era shows like Mad Men and Glow – and pining after the clothes – got me thinking about this stark contrast, not only from my own previous persona, but from women of previous eras as well.

It is deemed more acceptable today to be completely natural and not have to put in constant effort. Messy hair, make-up free, scuffed up trainers and pyjamas as daywear have become big things in recent times. (More silk than ninja turtle though).

As the new 20’s approach, I can’t help but notice how far flung society is from the previous 20’s. In some ways, I like it and in some ways I don’t.

Hear me out. I like how women have more respect in society, as do different races and sexualities, but I really miss the style. The fashion, the hair, the beauty, even the things around the home – I LOVE the 1920’s champagne glasses no matter how many bubbles get lost. Everything just seemed to ooze glamour and sophistication back then.



I love seeing fashions of the past; it’s an amazing insight into the minds of thousands of very different people. It’s an incredible thing being able to see exactly when the rules of society got broken down and warped into a better shape. Both women and men can dress completely for themselves in this day and age. I think that’s the beauty of living in the 21st century.

If you want to dress like someone from the past you can, with vintage shops in abundance. But you can also wear trackies and neither one would cause negative heads to turn. We do seem to have copied a lot of what’s already been done in terms of fashion, hair and beauty. Shapes, styles and patterns are all being modernised by designers and the high street.

Just think, 1920’s flapper dresses made a come back with copious tassels and beading, as have turban style hats and thick headbands that circle the head and cover the tips of the ears. The 1950’s have been revisited with tea dresses, cat flick eyeliner, over the knee poodle skirts, pencil skirts and fish tails. Nearly all long coat styles you find at the moment are taken from this time as well. Miniskirts from the 60’s have been huge ever since, along with coloured tights, graphic patterns and big lashes. Then there’s the recent revival of flares, platforms, long hair and boho chic from the 70’s. Power dressing kicked off in the 80’s and has continued with the rise of girl power – think suiting, shoulder pads and metallics. Then most recently is the relaxed 90’s and 00’s influence of dungarees, hip-hop jackets, plaid patterns, velour tracksuits and chokers.



It makes me think, what – if any – fashion legacy will our years leave behind? I guess you can’t really see or predict that until the time has been and gone. And even if we just get remembered for reigniting the stunners of the past, well, I for one am happy with that moniker.


Collage by: Felipe Guga



  1. February 8, 2018 / 8:23 pm

    Loved reading this! I was always the same where I couldn’t leave the house without a full face of makeup! But as I’ve got older, more confident in myself and in a settled relationship I see myself popping out in lounge wear and scruffy hair! Xx

    • thestyleitch26
      February 9, 2018 / 2:36 pm

      Aww yay and thank you!! It really is nice is it to be able to go out without a care in the world! 😂😂

  2. February 11, 2018 / 4:40 am

    Meee! I’ve been trying to wear less makeup and feel more confident with myself, lately.

    • thestyleitch26
      February 11, 2018 / 2:02 pm

      It is such an amazing feeling! xx

  3. February 11, 2018 / 6:54 am

    I loved th old glam and sophistication also! But I’m torn cause I also love how I currently can go out in rag clothes without too much discomfort, but then again I wish I had it inside me to get up every day and strut all full faced and perfectly polished. Just cause I love the success once I put in effort. But… ya know… sometimes ya don’t wanna lol

    • thestyleitch26
      February 11, 2018 / 2:05 pm

      Yes! This is exactly what I mean!! I love that we have the opportunity to be able to do both. It does feel really good when you put in effort but you’re right sometimes its nice just to do nothing at all! Hahaa xx

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